Interpersonal Communications, Healthy Relationships Stress Self-Test
Healthy Relationships and Interpersonal Communications Stress Self-Test
Richard T. Lovelace,
Communications and relationships that work (at work and elsewhere) involve interactions between people who are experiencing comfortable emotions and physical states. An uncomfortable emotional state such as anger with an uncomfortable physical state like a "tension headache" discourage getting along. The most direct cause of such discomfort is psychological stress: the biochemical response to an unknown perception of threat. To the point, the more stress you have the more your relationships suffer. The more your relationships or interpersonal communications are hurting, the greater the likelihood you will have even more stress.
Note: A guide to using the stress test portion of this lifestyle, health risk assessment with work groups is in the 2000 Training and Performance Sourcebook, published (December, 1999) by McGraw-Hill.
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Please add your numbers now. Type that initial score here:
If your "Obvious Stress Score" (above) was 58 or higher, check to see how often you gave a response of seven (7). (The total presence of something so infrequently happens that it's reasonable to consider such a response to be a subconscious attempt to overstate it.) Deduct three (3) points from your "Obvious Stress Score" for each response of seven. If, for example, your "Obvious Stress Score" was 61, and you gave seven responses of seven, then subtract 21 points from your "Obvious Stress Score" for an "adjusted score" of 40.
If needed, put your adjusted score here:
Note: Skip "Identifying Hidden
Stress" below if you scored 40 or higher. Go directly to "What
your number suggests."
If you got an "initial score" of 39 or less, you still might have some "Hidden Stress." Three key items can tell you if you have this concealed, and particularly menacing, strain. Worry (inventory item # two) hurtful eating (# six) and using "home remedy" or prescribed "painkillers" (# nine) are common ways to unwittingly avoid an awareness of stress.
Type your initial score here:
If you scored 39 or less and still rated yourself with a five or more on statement two, six or nine, then add seven points to your initial score for each statement. That means, for example, if your score totaled 37 and you rated yourself as five on statement number two and statement nine then add 14 (two statements time seven) to your 37 for a new total of 51.
Did you respond to any of the 10 items by rating yourself with a number one? If so, add three points to your score for each. (It infrequently happens that there is a total absence of something. So it's appropriate to consider such a response to be a subconscious attempt to ignore stress.) For instance, if you answered two of the statements with a number one, you would add another six points to the 51 for a final adjusted total of 57. The difference between the 37 you started with and 57 represents Hidden Stress.
Obvious stress is harmful enough. Hidden Stress is worse. It can be difficult to get yourself to work on what, understandably, you don't realize is there.
Next, write a number from one to seven that best describes (overall and in recent times) a relationship that is working less well. The number seven represents the greatest strain in the relationship in recent times (the last six weeks).
Some guidelines can help you decide on an appropriate number:
Note: Avoid “averaging” the strain. For instance, keep from telling yourself something like, “While it’s true that recently the relationship is usually strained and should get a rating of five or six, we got along well before … at a level of maybe a two or three. So, I’ll average those numbers and give a rating of four.” Please, don’t do it. Give the number that describes the level of hurt or strain in recent times.
Finally, scroll down to the chart you find below to see how well you numbers match.
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Please note: The author offers this inventory for educational purposes. No lifestyle, health risk assessment or appraisal tells absolute facts. Such assessments suggest possibilities to consider. When the results make sense and are helpful, then use them to your benefit. Avoid making significant changes in your life based on the results. Instead, use what you learn combined with appropriate professional support.
Last stress score: Relationship number:
Did you find a close match between your scores? If so, that confirms the interaction we noted earlier:
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